DAI in Kyoto, Japan

DAI members and many others with dementia had a very positive time in Kyoto for the ADI 32nd conference recently. We all  worked hard to ensure ALL people with dementia AND their families in ALL countries get better support, and DAI provided a platform via its workshop for many to have the chance to speak, who were not on the program.

As always, the deep bonds that the experience of being diagnosed with any type of a dementia, or supporting someone with dementia, brought people together in ways that are difficult to describe.  It is like being in a bubble of love and deep understanding, that others cannot fully understand, and even though as individuals we sometimes have differences of opinions, we are all facing the same things. Even without dementia, we are all going to die, so we are surely better off to just get on and work together anyway.

One of the valuable lessons DAI is learning, is that when a member passes on, or deteriorates to the point of not being able to be an active member, or moves on to do their own thing, we have many others willing to take on roles to support the global community of people with dementia and our local, national and global advocacy efforts. Sadly, because there is a new person being diagnosed with dementia  somewhere in the world every 3.2 seconds, this will always be the case!

DAI’s  workshop had more than 280 people in attendance, and about 13 people with dementia representing 6 or 7 countries, some with their care partners, presented at this event. The one thing that became very clear, as they were all sitting on the stage, is that no one could tell the difference between those of us diagnosed, or our care partners, in terms of who looked like they had dementia. The other things it highlighted as each person or couple told their stories, is that dementia effects everyone differently, and what is a good life to one person is different to another. the late Professor Tom Kitwood was right in talking in terms of person centred care, even though this is generally still rhetoric in care settings. The workshop panel Q & A session was also very interesting.

Informal feedback we received at the conference from many, was our workshop, and the one run by the Japan Dementia Working Group the next day, where I think they may have had more than 300 people attend, were the two best sessions of the conference.  We are  keen to see the formal feedback from the ADI survey that has just been sent to delegates.

We have no idea how to help 50 million people, but ONE step, ONE small action, EVERY day, EVERY week, EVERY month, one year at a time is what individuals with dementia, Working groups of people with dementia, Advocacy organisations, and DAI are all trying to do. Together, we are so much stronger, and the collective voices of people living with a diagnosis of dementia have also become louder, and perhaps much more demanding than ever before.

The  conference in Japan was made inspirational by the sheer volume of people with dementia, and the energy and charisma of the members of the The Japan Dementia Working Group. Their friendship and hospitality was incredible, a was that of their supporters.  They are also wanting to join DAI, collaborate with us, and work on the global human rights, as well as human rights in Japan.

After the conference ended, DAI also went to Osaka, and Christine Bryden, James McKillop, and I, and others, were there as part of a panel discussing dementia, and being filmed to raise awareness in Japan. Christine gave a keynote speech of what she has seen in her 22 years of living with dementia, and the changes in Japan since her first visit there. Christine started the advocacy work in Japan, and people with dementia are definitely running with their own advocacy efforts now. It is incredible to see the ripple effect now of the work of so many people, started by a few long before many of us were diagnosed or knew anything about dementia.

DAI thanks the early advocates, as without them standing up and demanding a voice and a seat at the table, we would not be where we are today.

As I wrote on Facebook after the conference, one young woman from Indonesia who was at the ADI conference told mentioned to me and John Sandblom (and his wife Cindy, her first time to an ADI conference) that is was because of meeting and listening to us and our speeches last year in Budapest, that she has decided to set up a global group for YOUNG carers. WOW, how exciting is that! DAI is going to work with her, to support that effort. This has been a dream of many members at DAI who live with YOD, and have seen our children face with with us, with little or no support.

There is much more to report, especially on human rights, but also we will share many of the presentations given by people with dementia in Kyoto once we have had some time to format them, including the DAI workshop, as well as adding a photo collage of our time together.

THANK YOU TO THE PEOPLE OF  JAPAN FOR YOUR CORDIAL HOSPITALITY, YOUR FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE, AND FOR CARING AND SUPPORTING US ALL SO VERY GENEROUSLY. MANY OF US HAVE LEFT A PART OF OUR  HEART WITH YOU ALL.
Finally, a reminder to register for our next Webinar with Rhonda Nay, on Sex, Death and Dementia… this is one you will not want too miss.